I came across this article in my ongoing search for a better definition of "BULLYING" behavior. To be bullied means that someone is repeatedly, again and again doing something to cause harm or be intentional in hurting someone in words or actions. Sometimes we as parents confuse this with someone being rude or mean on occasion, but with no real intent to harm. Working together to use the same language, helps us be better partners in our chidlren. We use the Second Step Program, in classrooms, to arm students with strategies that will be successful in both situations. Ultimately, the school wants to know when any of these things are happening during school time. Students are learning who to report to, but any school adult will help in any situation. Below is the langauage that we use at school to help students recognize the difference, and for us to help implement the best problem solving strategies possible.
Rude = Inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else.
Mean = Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt someone once (or maybe twice).
Bullying = Intentionally aggressive behavior, repeated over time, that involves an imbalance of power.